Honesty is more than not lying. It is truth telling, truth speaking, truth living, and truth loving." -James E. Faust
Today I found myself in a Batman kind of mood, so I watched "The Dark Night". I found it was interesting that Batman was constantly wearing a mask throughout the movie. Of course there is the physical mask, but also a personality in his "Bruce Wayne" persona which was created in order to trick people around him and keep loved ones safe as to not have villains figure out who he REALLY was. This got me thinking about the face we show to people around us. This might be residents, staff, family, friends, or a significant other.
I went to a conference yesterday where I ran into a lot of close friends from my younger years. I found it hard to talk with some of them, not because I didn't want to, but because I have become a different person over time and it was hard to stay "current me" while also using my "previous me" to relate with them. How I Met Your Mother would call this revertigo (see video below, parts in video jump to avoid copy-write issues). I've never realized how easily it is to change over time.
I was talking to a student the other day where they were talking about who they were as a person and how they were never the kind of people to open up or share their emotions. Sometimes it is very easy to fall back on previous tendencies or create a mask to hide your true emotions. The truth of the matter is that "you" are a fluid concept (especially during college). It is not a bad thing to change over time, you simply have to be honest with yourself.
This is where it is important to reflect on your values and find the morals that are deeper than all the rest. Once figuring out where you are and who you are as a person at that moment, you can be honest with yourself, honest with others around you about who you are and simply not come off a little two faced. :)
As a supervisor, it is important to create good transitions between these changes. A team will never work smoothly if the leaders are not consistent with their expectations or the way they interact with their staff. Change is never a bad thing, but you also need to learn how to ease people into it and not create a culture shock for them.
Question time: What are some beliefs/personality traits you feel have changed over time as you've gotten older?